Dear Mom I've Always
Wanted You to Know...Daughters Share Letters from
the Heart
by Lisa R. Delman
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In March of 1998, my mother
suffered a massive heart attack. She was revived three times in
a matter of moments, and the doctors gave her only a 20% chance
of surviving. As my mother lay in a coma in intensive care, my
mind was flooded with so many emotions. I felt overwhelming
sadness, pain, anger, and love all at once. For the first time
in my life, I was faced with the possibility that my mother
might die, and I realized how empty my life would be without
her. In that moment, I experienced an epiphany. Suddenly, I
viewed my mother and our relationship from a new perspective. I
resented her for matters that were not her fault. I understood
that many of the issues were more about me than her. I started
empathizing with her as a woman - not just as my mother. My soul
was desperately crying out for another opportunity to hear her
voice again, heal our relationship, and tell her how much I
appreciated her.
Miraculously, my mother came out of a coma and fully recovered
from her illness. I was fortunate enough to receive another
chance to repair our relationship. A dear friend and a teacher,
Chaim Daskal, inspired me to write a letter to my mother,
articulating in print all the things I wanted to communicate to
her - before it was too late. That one letter turned into a
series of eleven letters and became the catalyst for an
immeasurably deeper and more profoundly satisfying bond between
the two of us.
As I shared my letters and my cathartic experience with others,
I realized how many women still have unfinished business,
unspoken emotions, and unfulfilled relationships with their
moms. I truly believe in emphasizing the importance of
expressing our feelings and healing our relationships while we
still can. Thus, The Letters from the Heart ProjectTM
was born.
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